How to make out with a girl in 40 seconds or less – for real
How to attract a girl and make out with her almost instantly? Isn’t that a dream come true for you?
Have you ever seen a guy in a bar walk up to a girl he didn’t know and make out with her almost immediately, it can be a completely mind-blowing experience.
It may seem like he is born with a special ability or super-power and it does seem magical. It’s actually quite easy when you understand the dynamics of how to attract a girl.
The truth is, it’s not. I will break it down in a few simple steps you can follow in order to make the same thing happen for you.
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Let’s dive right into it.. Shall we?
You need to realize that the difference between someone who’s really good with women and someone who’s not so good or mediocre with women, is the ability to spot a woman who’s ready to make out.
Yeah, I know it sounds kind of crazy at first, but it’s true. Well, your odds are WAY down if you walk up to a woman in a bar without knowing what signs to look for.
To be THAT GUY, you must know how to spot that woman who’s already in this “make-out ready” state.
Please don’t believe the myth that women don’t want this to happen.
Women are as sexual (even more) than guys are. Most of the time, this “NOS” make-out session never happens, because so many guys are naturally afraid to even try something like that.
Unfortunately, This doesn’t happen and the girl ends up going home alone or even worse with a nut job..And when this doesn’t happen, the girls end up going home alone or worse..
It’s kind of sad and heart breaking for the girl because no one is approaching and she can’t approach as it’s again her natural instinct.
If you put this this technique into practice, You will discover what to look for to identify that woman with whom you can make out with in 40 seconds or less in the first place.
I highly recommend the book – Art Of Seduction By Robert Greene. It elaborates the seduction techniques according to the type of seducer you are.
There are a few excellent indicators that will (especially in a bar atmosphere) tell you if a woman is game, or ready for an instant make-out session.
So how to you attract a girl and make out with her almost instantly?
What To Look For To Attract A Girl
The biggest indicator is when a woman looks down often. She does that to access her emotions and down right bored.
Ever caught a woman looking at you and then down and then back up again into your eyes. She’s just trying to tell you that “I have an emotional response to you looking at me and I’m looking down.” And if she tilts her head down as well (and doesn’t just use her eyes to look down), she’s physically dropping herself a little bit lower and showing submission.
She wants you to act upon this, walk up to her and start a conversation like a dominant man.
But, if she looks at you, smiles and doesn’t look away, this could be a lot more difficult situation.
She’s meeting you head on socially, and not showing immediate submission.
Hence, you should walk up to the first woman to be walk up to and make out with in 40 seconds or less.
Because, she should automatically take the submissive role as a woman. That’s one quality which shows you’ll be able to quickly make out with her.
Another quality is that she’s actively looking around to make eye contact. This is crucial.
Obviously, it will be much more difficult to seduce a girl and make out with in 40 seconds or less as she is already engaged with someone specifically and she’s not looking away.
You can’t just walk up and make out with her. You will have to play a totally different game when you walk up to her.
So instead, identify a woman who is trying to make eye contact with a lot of people while being in a conversation. You have a very good probability to immediately become sexual with this one.
Other traits are revealed in the way they’re moving and how they’re dressed. Let’s say she’s standing with her feet about shoulder-width apart.
It’s very difficult to change her frame of dominance and confidence for you to simply walk up and seduce with her with a direct sexual approach.
That’s because she’s standing in a dominant position, with stronger body language and she’ll probably be a lot more resistant.
Instead, find a woman who’s more into a closed space. Someone who’s looking around a little bit with her legs closer together and seems to be outside of a group.
Let’s see another aspect. This is how a woman is dressed. If she’s dressed in a way that’s super flashy and attracting lots of attention, she probably isn’t the kind of girl you can walk up to and make out with in 40 seconds.
She’s looking for attention – not for someone to dominate her. What you want is someone who’s in between “I don’t care” and “Stare at my tits, bitch!”
Somewhere between wearing sweatpants with an elastic waistband to the bar and done up really, really beautiful and sexy with a really low-cut shirt. You want to find someone who’s in between those two extremes.
Basically, women who are on vacation fall into this category. They don’t want to over dress or under dress, and don’t know how the bar atmosphere is going to be.
They’ll usually come in open-minded, and start looking around trying to make connections. This is an excellent situation for you (and her, of course).
There you go. Spot someone like that, feel your gut and go for it if all feels right for you. (I am not talking about the hesitation). Just watch her for a second, identify and calibrate with her space, then walk up to her and introduce yourself.
Your approach should be very direct and she should be able to feel your sexual energy. Your two arsenals are solid piercing eye-contact meaning business and that charming smirk on your face. (Avoid smile with an open mouth. It denotes being too friendly).
Irrespective of anything, if you spot someone that that, approach anyway and see what happens.
Next, right after you get that done and you’ve seen your girl (there are probably three or four of these girls in a bar at any given moment) you’re going to walk up and start the scary part. The game begins here..
What Should You Do
This might seem too difficult right now but trust me when you practice it religiously, you will be a pro at this. You are born to attract a girl and have awesome sexual experiences.
It’s purely magical and quite powerful when you know how to control your frame and understand how to control someone else’s frame. You would want to come across like you’re a pro at this.
By “frame,” I basically mean their “reality.” You’re controlling what they experience. You have to be able to stay in control of that experience in order to really bring her to the level where she feels comfortable making out with you immediately.
Confused, I will give you a spicy and blasting way to do that. I’ll explain as quick as possible; I mean I want you to go straight out and try it…
Here’s what I would say, word-for-word… Walk up to a girl, when you get up to her and right when she makes eye contact with you, I want you to SLOWLY put your finger up by your lips and say this, “Shhh…”
Then slow your speech pattern down and deepen your vocal tonality. And immediately say, “Wait just one moment.”
You can also say, “Stop for one minute.” I suggest using a bit of NLP here. Whenever someone hears “stop,” “wait,” or “don’t,” they immediately register whatever comes after that.
So if I say, “Don’t think of a white cat,” what do you do? Immediately, you think of a white cat or whatever version comes in your mind
Let’s say I said, “Don’t try to kiss me here,” or “Don’t make out with me right now,” girls are going to be consciously hearing, “Don’t make out with me,” but their subconscious minds will be hearing, “Make out with me right now!” Or “Kiss me here” the first part.. Getting my point?
You’re actually trying to fuse her subconscious with a real life inception making her think that it’s HER idea of making out.. She should be thinking, “I should make out with this guy.”
Well, you’ll be using a lot of these subconscious triggers during frame control. A humble request though, Please only use this for good to attract a girl. There are lots of evil ways to use this.
Don’t try to seduce women who don’t want to be seduced. Again, that’s one of the reasons why it’s important that you notice a woman who really does want to be seduced by a man.
Let’s recap what we’ve done so far: you walk up, you put your finger over your lips and you tell her to “Shhh” for a second and then you say a sentence that starts with “don’t” or “wait” or “stop.”
My typical is “Don’t worry… right now.” That’s all I say. And I slow that speech down – “Don’t…worry………. right now.”
Then I go right into the next statement, which is, “You and I are going to have a secret. We’re going to secretly kiss and no one will know.”
I am leaning in while I am saying this to her.. so just picture yourself doing this when you actually do it.. It’s kind of fascinating. Isn’t it?? Anyway, keep leaning forward very SLOWLY.. and a bit more..and yes you are making constant seductive eye contact with a slight smirk on your face like a boss..slowly looking down at her lips and then back to her eyes again.
This is called “Triangulating.” Count to three looking at her eyes, then look down to her lips and count to two, look back up and count to three, look down and count to two… etc. Do that about three or four times as you’re talking.
Practice it as many times as possible. Fun fact…when I practised this obviously I was a frustrated chump so could not find a girl… I did this with a male friend and trust me he literally felt the magic of triangulating. So, it’s really powerful.
Let’s do it again, you say, “We’re going to have a secret. We’re going to kiss and no one is going to know.” From here on out, you’re really just filling up space with words as you’re leaning in so you’re still controlling the interaction. (Don’t fill up your brain with what to say). Just go with with the flow of the conversation. And remember talk less and seduce more..
So you’re going to very, very slowly, take your right or left hand – whichever one is more accessible – and reach around her back. You won’t pull her in toward you or anything yet, just touch her very lightly.
How Do You Know If It’s Working!
Is she looking at your lips? If she’s looking at your lips, you have a green light to go forward. If she’s looking at your eyes, you may want to wait a second, or turn around and turn back again and try it again.
This just resets the subconscious meter in her mind. When you turn around and turn back again, most people consider this to be a fresh start in a conversation. It’s a strange loop-hole in psychology.
For some reason, that’s how we are as humans. When someone turns away then turns back, we give them another chance moving forward.
Well, if you might get some resistance, turn around, turn back, smile, and continue. If she gives you resistance again, you probably should back off and find another woman. Don’t infringe her personal space or creep her out.
If she’s looking at your lips and seems to be very comfortable and excited, then proceed. You’ll move in very closely and speak almost directly into her ear.
Just whisper but stay there for a second or two just give her a sensual peck below her ear lobes. Just a peck no tongue to licking.
When your are pulling back from her ears, stay a bit closer to her lips and don’t move, don’t kiss yet. She will do it for you.. Just stay in the intensity.
In a loud environment like a bar, you’ll want to speak louder, but don’t raise your voice. Make your voice very low so that you have to be very, very close to her ear for her to hear.
Keep on talking with her with a low voice… What I usually say is, I promise no one is going to see us.. It’s going to be our little secret if you promise you won’t tell anybody either”
As I’m saying this into her ear, I make sure that she’s feeling my breath on her neck. So I’m sort of breathing out a little bit more than normal as I’m speaking so she can feel that hot air on her neck.
This usually gets a very visceral, deep, sexual response from women when you do this.
As you’re speaking really close to her ear, you’ll, very slowly, press your cheek against hers as you’re talking. Then you’ll move you head over so that your mouth is closer to hers, and then… you’ll start kissing her.
And if you do this right, you start out with just one soft peck… then go straight into making out. It may not seem like it in this description, but 40 seconds is a long time.
Honestly, this process can happen in a lot less than 40 seconds – I’ve done it in less time, and I’ve seen other guys do it, too.
Practically, you can’t use this tactic all the time . But, it’s a powerful tool to get laid faster. You just have pick the right woman at the time time and practice this as much as you can. It’s really good to have this in your seduction arsenal.
Whenever you see a girl who’s in that state and ready to be seduced, if you beat around the bush, engage in small talk or generally waste time, she’ll be turned off and you’ve lost a golden seduction opportunity.
Instead, when you spot someone like that, go right up and do your game. Know that that’s what she wants, go in, and give it to her immediately. Someone else will if you won’t..Simple.
This is the major difference between guys who are rock stars at walking up and seducing a woman… and guys who wish that they were great at quickly seducing a woman.
To be honest, there are a lot of other success factors and skills that you can learn to be a master seducer.I mean, things like how to speak with the right tonality, how to touch without being a creep, when to sexually escalate and what might turn her off.
I hope it was fun reading this article and I am sure you will score better now.
Please feel free to comment below for any questions you may have.